Jaymes Black (they/she/he pronouns), CEO of The Trevor Project, to explore what authentic influence looks like in practice. Jaymes reflects on their early missteps in leadership and how mentors helped them understand that true influence flows from empathy and connection rather than force. They share how embracing their authentic self not only transformed their own leadership but also empowered them to create space for others, whether by centering team members in organizational conversations or elevating LGBTQ+ youth as the true face of the mission. From building coalitions to tackling systemic challenges, to prioritizing where they can have the most impact, to leading with shared humanity in the face of political division, Jaymes offers powerful lessons on influence rooted in authenticity, courage, and collaboration.
Takeaways:
- Influence Should Flow, Not Force: Leaders should see influence as an emotional connection, not a power play. Forcing decisions creates resistance, but influence that flows—rooted in empathy and shared values—opens minds and builds trust.
- Authenticity Strengthens Leadership: Showing up as your true self makes you a more inclusive and effective leader. Leaders who embrace their identities create space for others to do the same, fostering stronger teams and deeper trust.
- Share the Stage to Elevate Others: Leadership isn’t about always being the face of the mission. By highlighting team members and giving them visibility—such as panel discussions at The Trevor Project—leaders amplify voices and strengthen organizational culture.
- Focus on Shared Humanity to Bridge Divides: When engaging with skeptics or opponents, emphasize shared values (like protecting youth) rather than differences. Framing influence around humanity creates openings for dialogue across political or cultural divides.
- Be Strategic About Where You Show Up: You can’t be everywhere at once. Leaders should prioritize the spaces where they can have the greatest influence, delegate when possible, and give themselves permission to say no.
- Build Coalitions to Tackle Systemic Challenges: Big missions require collaboration. Leaders should partner with other organizations, share best practices, and co-create solutions to achieve lasting impact.
- Influence Starts Inside the Organization: External influence is only sustainable if internal teams feel seen, heard, and connected. Leaders must go beyond town halls—engaging in smaller, authentic conversations that build trust and align people with the mission.
Quote of the Show:
- “You can be yourself—you can embrace your multitudes—and still be a leader. That’s what makes us powerful. That’s what makes us more influential.”
Links:
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejaymesblack/
- Website: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/